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Are you mental?

Did you brush your teeth this morning?

It’s part of the standard morning routine isn’t it.

Brushing twice a day is one of those things we all do about 99% of the time to keep our teeth and gums health and well.

No biggie, just two minutes twice a day. Routine.

You know how yuk it feels when you forget or don’t do it eh?

That sandpaper mouth, dessert-dry, furry tongue feeling when you wake up after a drinking sesh. Not in any way pleasant.

And if you didn’t do it for days and months on end, you’d probably rival a Victorian street beggar’s oral hygiene.

Or maybe look a bit like Gollum.

Anyhoo, in case you’re wondering, this isn’t a blog post sponsored by the dental society.

My point is, doing simple things often keep you well. Jeso, not rocket science eh.

But although we’re all ok with that when it comes to our physical wellbeing, we’re not so hot when it’s our mental health.

We can all get down. Some of us will even get depressed. I hope you never do, but here’s the benefit of my experience.

Until very recently, I didn’t realise I needed to work on my mental wellbeing every day.

If I don’t, it becomes mental illness. And believe me, that’s no picnic. And it takes longer to get well from that place.

When I was first told I would need to work on being mentally well, my thought was “oh great, I’ve got no time, how am I going to fit that in?”

Take that in. I felt like I had no time to keep myself well. Bet some of you are thinking the same thing though.

It’s a myth. You can make time. You have to make time.

Even if it’s not much, even if it’s just 10 minutes.

You know how I started? I made a list of all the things that I like to do that make me happy.

Then I pick one every day. Depending on how much time I have.

Now, before anyone starts, this isn’t a recipe to cure depression…It’s my way of staying well long term, post illness. I worked hard to get to this place and I don’t want to go back.

I want to keep well and enjoy life.

So I worked at it. And continue to work at it. Every day.

For me, for my family and most importantly, for my son.

And eventually, you might find, like I have, life stops feeling like it’s such an effort.

I’m sharing this in the hope it will help, not because I’m a trained medical professional.

It’s simple and it working for me.

And although I have a bigger list, I’ve chosen 5 that are things I do just for me.

In no particular order, it goes a little something like this:

  • Yoga
  • Getting outside
  • Writing
  • Being with family & friends
  • Listening to or playing music

I decided I’d talk about my mental wellness, not mental illness.

We need a shift in focus so people can work on keeping well. In my humble opinion.

But remember…

If you are struggling and need help, get it.

If you need to talk to someone, do it.

Don’t wait.


  1. Great blog post. Totally agree we need to do more of what makes us happy and getting fresh air into our lungs and be in and around Mother Nature. Xx

  2. ❤️ I’m so happy more people are talking about mental health. It’s still within our life time that electric shock therapy and being excluded from applying for certain jobs because of a history of depression happened. From someone who also has a history with Mental health it really is about managing it day by day and knowing what you need to do to look after yourself. Thanks so much for sharing 💕

    1. It’s amazing how far things have progressed isn’t it Carol? I completely agree that it’s the day to day that makes a difference longer term. You look after yourself too – and feel free to share anything that works for you too – let’s make a big wellness list! Cara x

  3. Fabulous reminder that you need to do something you enjoy – no matter how small EVERYDAY! we are all so busy with “life” that we often forget….me I save up doing something I enjoy until I have “more time” – which given my commitments is usually the 38th of Jalember – it be never comes!!!! This blog made me think – this is unacceptable- how dare I disinvest in myself like this. Note to self.. I am so sorry, I will do something just for you everyday – that’s a promise. Like Cara I am going to start a list & pick at least one thing daily 💛

  4. I’ve been meeting up with a friend for ages to play backgammon and chat, but we’ve just started doing this in Carnegie Library (where we can also have good coffee). This helps me to stay grounded.

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